Life and the choices we make

Life is so weird. It is amazing to think that choices that you make when you are 17 or 18 years old will effect the rest of your life. Today I am going to blog about my sister, who is 2 years older than me and how her life has turned out because of choices she has made.

T, was in love with her high school sweetheart, J, who really pretty much treated her like crap. The summer before her senior year she got pregnant. They did not realize the impact of not using birth control. She ended up having a miscarriage and was devasted. To make matters worse while she was in the hospital recovering from this, he was out with a close friend of hers and got her pregnant. When she went back to school in the fall, him and his now pregnant girlfriend spread a horrible rumor that she had an abortion. She was taunted daily. She ended up dropping out.

Her self esteem was very low at this point. She then met a man named Steve, who made her feel pretty and all the important things. By this time we are living in Florida, and her and steve left in the middle of the night, we did not hear a word from her for months, until she showed up with bruises all over her body and pregnant. She never heard from Steve again. She went on to have a little girl, named T, who is now 17 yrs old. She then went through several relationships and wound up pregnant wth another little girl, K, who is now 15. She finally settled down and got married and had yet another girl, D, who is 11.

T, who is now 17, has pretty much always had problems. She was ADD and ADHD and would go spastic on you. She was diagnosed with Bi-Polar and other mental issues.

My sister said that as long as T got what she wanted she was fine, but when you put your foot down she would go ballistic. She is now a big girl, weighs at least 200 lbs and has been out of control for a long time. My sister had no idea what to do. For the past year or so she has started to hurt herself, and said that she would blame my sister and her husband. My sister finally found out how true this statement is on Wednesday afternoon. T did not get off the bus, she called the school and noone said anything other than the fact that she was in school. They were assigned a social worker after T's latest hospital stay, and they have had a problem with T running away. They called the social worker and said that they thought she had run away. The social worker said that she was now in state custody because of abuse, and they would be investagiting my sisters other two children.

Last night, Thursday, they came and took the other two kids. My sister is devestated. She does not know what to do, and IMO has always tried to do the right thing, but because of her poor choices and lack of income and education has no choice but to now to try fight for her children.

I have spent the last couple of days looking back at our childhood. We grew up in a single parent home (Dad died when I was 1) My Mom raised three girls on her own with zero help from the outside. It was tough and we struggled a lot, but I always knew that my Mom loved us.

My oldest sister, C, lost custody of her own three children almost 10 years ago, and to this day is still fighting for them. It is such a sad situation.

I really do not know what to do for T, other than to be there for her and make some phone calls. I am by no way educated (Although I am going to start college in a few weeks) I am worried immensely about the children and really do not even know what to say to my sister, other than call the lawyer that was appointed to you. I am calling DCF today and checking on the children. I am scared, and if I am scared I cannot imagine what my sister is feeling.

So if you are reading this please say a prayer for my family.

Today I will be talking to my daughters about what is going on and hopefully they will realize that we all have choices in life, whether we make the right choice or the wrong one that is all up to us.